I am a VERY self sufficient person. “I will take care of this”. I can do this myself.” “I WILL do this myself.” That is me: 100%. It is actually a calcified identity that has served me well for many years. I am efficient, I don’t waste a lot of time, I get right down to business, I understand that time is money, both for me AND my clients. It served me well as a musician, when I had to learn difficult and complex pieces of music in a short period of time. It is a wonderful trait to have as a small business owner, where the buck always stops, right here, at my feet.

But guess what; I am at a meditation retreat. It is 5 AM and I am sipping coffee, musing about how to change up my life in ways that will support the path I am on, both personally and professionally. One thing that I have come to learn, actually admit, over the last several months is that I do need help at times. It’s not that I can’t do it, I have realized that I don’t WANT to do it. What is the “IT”? Oh, all sorts of things. Mostly having to do with the things of everyday life that soak up the hours, such as checking on computer related issues and other technical aspects of the business. So, I have begun to rely, happily, more and more on my tech people: My Computer Gal, and my Web/Facebook/Blog Guy.

That leaves me more time to do things that are enriching for me and ultimately, my clients. Such as:

Go shopping for clients in areas of the city that I normally don’t get to.

Go to museums and galleries for inspiration.

Go to concerts, like the opening of the Philharmonic last week…the “Rite” was amazing!

Browse through the magazines that have piled up for design ideas.

Organize my office so I can get to those files more easily.

Go to Dia Beacon to see Richard Serra for the umpty-umpth time….I can never get enough of Torqued Ellipses.

Organize a trip to Connecticut to see Phillip Johnson’s Glass House….. finally.

Go to the Century Club with a friend and see a Stanford White building that will knock your socks off.

Walk up Park Avenue and really take a close look at those art installations that are in the center meridians.

Stop into a few showrooms at the D&D building that I HAVE NEVER BEEN IN!

To name just a few….

This is a reorganization of time allocation that I will never regret. These kind of activities go into my brain and get metabolized in ways that directly benefit my clients. We both win. Stop and think hard about what you think you NEED to do and what you actually WANT to do. Think hard about the real reasons that you won’, or can’t, allow yourself to do what you actually WANT to do.  Dig into the wonderful experience of WANT. And then do it.

What does this have to do with design? Tons. I am a better designer –  right now.

4 thoughts on “DO WHAT YOU WANNA DO

  1. Sato Moughalian

    Marcia, nice post! If you like Richard Serra, please add a trip to the Guggenheim in Bilbao, Spain to your list! The museum itself is magnificent, but there is also a huge gallery within that contains eight Serra sculptures in a site-specific installation. Bilbao is a wonderful city in the Basque region, and well worth a visit!

  2. Don

    Hi Marsh – I’m also a big believer in self-sufficiency and am realizing that it coexists wonderfully with interdependence. To be part of a network doesn’t mean I can’t take care of myself. My big discovery is that there are people who actually enjoy doing what I don’t and vice versa.

    Hooray for community!

  3. Meghan

    Hi Marcia, great read – inspires and speaks to everyone. I believe that we are all on this planet having similar yet individual journeys. Our desire for love, comfort and quiet solace is a human desire we can all relate to. What you end up doing with those quiet times are uniquely yours……and I am so glad you are spending yours so fabulously! I am on my way to the Met, so perhaps our paths will cross there. Hope to see you soon. Xomeghan


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